octobre 2019
Expert Author Daniel Blanchard
Have you ever seen a picture of one of those old baby cages hanging out a skyscraper's window from the 1930s? In the 1930s, parents were worried about their kids' health because of the poor air quality in those big, old buildings.
I guess this fresh air thing must have been a good thing because in some ways it still persists today. Scandinavian parents often park their little ones in strollers outside of restaurants while they go inside to take a break. They say the fresh air, and even the cold air is good for their babies' lung development.
I'm not disagreeing with getting our little ones some fresh air. But, in that same vein, I don't think that we'll see American parents today hanging their kids outside their 10th story apartment window in a cage. Nor, will we see parents leaving their little ones outside unattended in the cold to build up their lung capacity.
You want to know what else sounds a little crazy? Today, American parents are taking youth sports too seriously. Rules have even been put into place at some youth competitions to discourage cheering. Officials are continually reminding parents of what appropriate behavior is at games. And signs are posted all over just in case parents have forgotten the rules. Coaches even send behavior contracts home for athletes and their parents to sign. Police are now stationed at a lot of the youth games taking place every day across this great big country of ours. Do you remember this craziness when we were kids? No. Me neither. Parents have gotten a little crazy with youth sports, wouldn't you agree? Parents, let's just relax a little and let our kids have some fun. Okay?
Now, as my Granddaddy always said, "Go learn, lead and lay the way to a better world for all of us." Remember, sometimes things can get a little crazy, however, through some introspection and self-reflections we can stop some of the craziness right now. And once again parents, thanks in advance for all that you do and all that you will do...
Expert Author Daniel Blanchard
We parents would prefer to have a sure-proof parenting manual that would answer all of our questions in a straight forward manner. We want exact steps that we could follow as easy as a well-written formula or maybe we would even settle for a simple but effective recipe like one gets when baking a cake. We want a proven way to raise our kids.
Sadly, there are no perfect parenting books, and there isn't an ideal scientific formula that can answer our questions. Through much experimenting and support from others who are experienced, there are benefits to be gained that we might be able to measure and analyze like a scientist. However, crunching parenting data will always be imperfect.
As we explore the opposite side of the equation, the art of parenting, sometimes we find that side even messier. And all we can do is just stay calm, and breathe. That's right. Just breathe. Breathe because you deserve it. You are not alone. You do matter. And you are making a difference. No matter what our kids say, we really are the most important people in their lives, and believe it or not, they really are listening to us.
Instead of constantly worrying about our parenting prowess, let's just look for the simplicity in the complexity of parenting. Let's be okay with the unknown and creating something new and artistic through parenting. Let's learn how to dance on the edge. Heck, I say let's even learn how to dance in the rain on the edge again, like when we were kids. Dancing in the rain sounds better than waiting helplessly for the storm to pass, doesn't it?
Now, as my Granddaddy always said, "Let's go learn, lead and lay the way to a better world for all of us." Let's know that parenting is kind of like a science and an art all mixed up in some delightful crazy and messy way for us to meander through in the best way we possibly can. And once again parents, thanks in advance for all that you do, and all that you will do...